8 Things Every Woman Should Know About Men Over 50

Excerpt:
From my friend Lisa Copeland. This is terrific.

"This is always a HOT TOPIC for both men and women on Huffington Post. This time it got me 7,400 Likes on FB plus 301 comments. Love to hear what you think."
~Lisa

".Growing up, we weren't taught who men really are and what makes them tick. I know I wasn't and, in the past, I made huge mistakes that ended up emasculating men. It's what led me to helping women really understand who men are ... especially men over 50. 

That's why these eight things about men over 50 are tips you can use right away in your dating life. These tips have made a huge difference in my both my life and the lives of my coaching clients..." 

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The Room

The Room... is like my representation of 'Home Base', on this blog, and also in the book I am currently working on. It can be either an actual physical room or simply a frame of mind.

  The Room - Real or 

imaginary

"This is an absolute necessity for anybody today. You must

have a room, or a certain hour or so a day, where you don't 

know what was in the newspapers that morning, you don't 

know who your friends are, you don't know what you owe

anybody, you don't know what anybody owes to you. This is

a place where you can simply experience and bring forth 

what you are and what you might be. This is a place of

creative incubation. At first you may find that nothing 

happens there, but if you have a sacred place and use it,

something eventually will happen."

From "Joseph Cambell and the Power of Myth 

(with Bill Moyers)"

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About Happiness

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How To Live Your Life in Contentment and Happiness

Do you want to live your life in contentment and happiness?

Discover twelve suggestions that help make it happen:

As you work on changing obstacles holding you back from life's enjoyment... you will notice a positive difference in your outlook on life. 

Imagine the feeling as stress, frustration, and unhappiness are replaced by joy, pleasure, and better health. 

Give it a try. Explore your options. There's nothing to lose and everything to gain.


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Pingates

Awesome advise on how to live a healthy, happy, and rewarding life:

Pingates

Are you seeking ways to transform your life... and move yourself out of the fog of the doldrums?

Discover the Dalai Lama's 18 Rules For Living. Apply them in your daily thinking and they can change your life for the better.

 The Dalai Lama's 18 Rules For Living

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
 
2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
 
3. Follow the three Rs: -Respect for self -Respect for others -Responsibility for all your actions.
 
4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
 
5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
 
6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
 
7. When you realize you have made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

8. Spend some time alone every day.
 
9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
 
10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
 
11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.
 
12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
 
13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. 
Don’t bring up the past.
 
14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.
 
15. Be gentle with the earth.
 
16. Once a year, go someplace you have never been before.
 
17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other 
exceeds your need for each other.
 
18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.


Thank you http://peacefuldaily.com/ for this wonderful information. 


Think about all these rules and incorporate them into living your life,
and given a little time - see how it changes everything in such an incredible way. 

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The Other Seven Wonders Of The World

Do you recall what the long accepted seven wonders of the world are?

Here is what they are:

But there is another set of incredible wonders to consider and incorporate in your life and daily thinking about yourself.

Young school children were assigned a task to list the known seven wonders. 

Following is an awesome list submitted by a little girl. 

Look at them and consider how blessed you are to have them in your life... and what your life would be without them.

Discover what they are:

 
Oh yes, what a perfect set of wonders provided by your Creator for you. 
Embrace these gifts, because nothing compares to their grandeur. 
Now go forward and build a beautiful new and happy life.


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It's National Friendship Week.

Steve Kerner

If you will take the time to read these. I promise you'll come away with an enlightened perspective.The subjects covered affect us all on a daily basis: They're written by Andy Rooney , a man who has the gift of saying so much with so few words. Enjoy.......

I've learned.....
That the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.

I've learned.....
That when you're in love, it shows.

I've learned.....
That just one person saying to me, 'You've made my day!' makes my day.

I've learned.....
That having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world.

I've learned.....
That being kind is more important than being right.

I've learned.....
That you should never say no to a gift from a child.

I've learned.....
That I can always pray for someone when I don't have the
strength to help him in some other way.

I've learned.....
That no matter how serious your life requires you to be,
everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.

I've learned.....
That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.

I've learned.....
That simple walks with my father around the block on summer nights when I was a child did wonders for me as an adult.

I've learned.....
That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to
the end, the faster it goes.

I've learned.....
That we should be glad God doesn't give us everything we ask for.

I've learned.....
That money doesn't buy class.

I've learned.....
That it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.

I've learned....
That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.

I've learned.....
That to ignore the facts does not change the facts.

I've learned.....
That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only
letting that person continue to hurt you.

I've learned.....
That love, not time, heals all wounds.

I've learned.....
That the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people smarter than I am.

I've learned....
That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.

I've learned......
That no one is perfect until you fall in love with them.

I've learned....
That life is tough, but I'm tougher.

I've learned.....
That opportunities are never lost, someone will take the ones you miss.

I've learned.....
That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.

I've learned.....
That I wish I could have told my Mom that I love her one more time before she passed away.

I've learned.....
That one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.

I've learned.....
That a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.

I've learned.....
That when your newly born grandchild holds your little finger in his little fist, that you're hooked for life.

I've learned.....
That everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you're climbing it.

I've learned.....
That the less time I have to work with, the more things I get done.

To all of you.... Make sure you read all the way
down to the last sentence.

It's National Friendship Week.
Show your friends how much you care. Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND, even if it means sending it back to the person who sent it to you. If it comes back to you, then you'll know you have a circle of friends. HAPPY FRIENDSHIP WEEK TO YOU!!!!!! YOU ARE MY FRIEND AND I AM HONORED!

Now send this to every friend you have!! And to your family. This was sent to me by a great person!

Is Your 2014 Off To An Awesome Start?

To help you kick off the new year right…

Here are extraordinary quotes about fresh starts, celebration and appreciating each new day like the gift it is:



This image is, in my opinion, a beautiful 

representation of the sense of tranquility you can  

create in your life. Imagine having such serenity 

and confidence while going forward building a 

wonderful life of new relationships and incredible 

experiences.

 
"Yesterday's the past, tomorrow's the future, but today is a gift. That's why it's called the present." 
~Bil Keane

"For last year's words belong to last year's language and next year's words await another voice." 
~T.S. Eliot

"Celebrate what you want to see more of." 
~Tom Peters

"If you asked me for my New Year Resolution, it would be to find out who I am." 
~Cyril Cusack

"We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year's Day." 
~Edith Lovejoy Pierce

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Mark Twain’s Top 9 Tips for Living a Kick-Ass Life

Are you stuck in your life... not able to move forward, things not going right? The famous American author Mark Twain (Samuel Clemens) has some good advise for your to think about.

You may know Mark Twain for some of his very popular books, but what you may not know is how much of a bad ass he was at living life. 

Here are a few tips for living an awesome life from Mark Twain, with comments from the person who posted it. A very worthwhile and enjoyable read. All being well-said.

I found this on a Facebook post to me. 
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“It’s no wonder that truth is stranger than fiction. Fiction has to make sense.”

“Let us live so that when we come to die even the undertaker will be sorry.”

“When your friends begin to flatter you on how young you look, it’s a sure sign you’re getting old.”

You may know Mark Twain for some of his very popular books like Adventures of Huckleberry Finn and The Adventures of Tom Sawyer. He was a writer and also a humorist, satirist and lecturer.

Twain is known for his many – and often funny – quotes. Here are a few of my favorite tips from him:


1. Approve of yourself.

“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”

If you don’t approve of yourself, of your behavior and actions then you’ll probably walk around most of the day with a sort of uncomfortable feeling. If you, on the other hand, approve of yourself then you tend to become relaxed and gain inner freedom to do more of what you really want.

This can, in a related way, be a big obstacle in personal growth. You may have all the right tools to grow in some way but you feel an inner resistance. You can’t get there.

What you may be bumping into there are success barriers. You are putting up barriers in your own mind of what you may or may not deserve. Or barriers that tell you what you are capable of. They might tell you that you aren’t really that kind of person that could this thing that you’re attempting.

Or if you make some headway in the direction you want to go you may start to sabotage for yourself. To keep yourself in a place that is familiar for you.

So you need give yourself approval and allow yourself to be who you want to be. Not look for the approval from others. But from yourself. To dissolve that inner barrier or let go of that self-sabotaging tendency. This is no easy task and it can take time.


2. Your limitations may just be in your mind.

“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.”

So many limitations are mostly in our minds. We may for instance think that people will disapprove because we are too tall, too old or balding. But these things mostly matter when you think they matter. Because you become self-conscious and worried about what people may think.

And people pick up on that and may react in negative ways. Or you may interpret anything they do as a negative reaction because you are so fearful of a bad reaction and so focused inward on yourself.

If you, on the other hand, don’t mind then people tend to not mind that much either. And if you don’t mind then you won’t let that part of yourself become a self-imposed roadblock in your life.
It is, for instance, seldom too late to do what you want to do.


3. Lighten up and have some fun.

“Humor is mankind’s greatest blessing.”
“Against the assault of laughter nothing can stand.”

Humor and laughter are amazing tools. They can turn any serious situation into something to laugh about. They can lighten the mood just about anywhere.

And a lighter mood is often a better space to work in because now your body and mind isn’t filled to the brim with negative emotions. When you are more light-hearted and relaxed then the solution to a situation is often easier to both come up with and implement. Have a look at Lighten Up! for more on this topic.


4. Let go of anger.

“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”

Anger is most of the time pretty pointless. It can cause situations to get out of hand. And from a selfish perspective it's often more hurtful for the one being angry then the person s/he’s angry at.

So even if you feel angry at someone for days recognize that you are mostly just hurting yourself. The other person may not even be aware that you are angry at him or her. So either talking to the person and resolving the conflict or letting go of anger as quickly as possible are pretty good tips to make your life more pleasurable.


5. Release yourself from entitlement.

“Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.”

When you are young your mom and dad may give a lot of things. As you grow older you may have a sort of entitlement. You may feel like the world should just give you what you want or that it owes you something.

This belief can cause a lot of anger and frustration in your life. Because the world may not give you what you expect it to. On the other hand, this can be liberating too. You realize that it is up to you to shape your own life and for you to work towards what you want. You are not a kid anymore, waiting for your parents or the world to give you something.

You are in the driver’s seat now. And you can go pretty much wherever you want.


6. If you’re taking a different path, prepare for reactions.

“A person with a new idea is a crank until the idea succeeds.”

I think this has quite a bit of relevance to self-improvement.

If you start to change or do something different than you usually do then people may react in different ways. Some may be happy for you. Some may be indifferent. Some may be puzzled or react in negative and discouraging ways.

Much of these reactions are probably not so much about you but about the person who said it and his/her life. How they feel about themselves is coming through in the words they use and judgements they make.

And that’s OK. I think it’s pretty likely that they won’t react as negatively as you may imagine. Or they will probably at least go back to focusing on their own challenges pretty soon.

So what other people may say and think and letting that hold you back is probably just fantasy and barrier you build in your mind.

You may find that when you finally cross that inner threshold you created - then people around you may not shun you or go chasing after you with pitchforks. They might just go: “OK”.


7. Keep your focus steadily on what you want.

“Drag your thoughts away from your troubles… by the ears, by the heels, or any other way you can manage it.”

What you focus your mind on greatly determines how things play out. You can focus on your problems and dwell in suffering and a victim mentality. Or you can focus on the positive in situation, what you can learn from that situation or just focus your mind on something entirely else.

It may be “normal” to dwell on problems and swim around in a sea of negativity. But that is a choice. And a thought habit. You may reflexively start to dwell on problems instead of refocusing your mind on something more useful. But you can also start to build a habit of learning to gain more and more control of where you put your focus.


8. Don’t focus so much on making yourself feel good.

“The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up.”

This may be a bit of a counter-intuitive tip. But as I wrote yesterday, one of the best ways to feel good about yourself is to make someone else feel good or to help them in some way.

This is a great way to look at things to create an upward spiral of positivity and exchange of value between people. You help someone and both of you feel good. The person you helped feels inclined to give you a hand later on since people tend to want to reciprocate. And so the both of you are feeling good and helping each other.

Those positive feelings are contagious to other people and so you may end up making them feel good too. And the help you received from your friend may inspire you to go and help another friend. And so the upward spiral grows and continues.


9. Do what you want to do.

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did so. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

Awesome quote. And I really don’t have much to add to that one. Well, maybe to write it down and keep it as a daily reminder – on your fridge or bathroom door – of what you can actually do with your life.

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Some Awesome Stuff To Ponder On - To Elevate Your Spirts

It's all about how you think, and what you think about. Think grand thoughts and you become a grand person. Think small... you get the picture. Focus your energy on the good, because energy follows your thinking.

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