Compulsive People Pleasing Can Be Emotionally Unhealthy

Do you find satisfaction in pleasing other people? If you choose to honestly be nice to them, accommodating, or of service in some altruistic manner…that is a noble purpose. Being nice to people is pleasing and does wonders for your emotional well-being. However, always keep in mind your motives for justifying such goodly efforts and actions, because there should be no expectation of reward or compensation for them - unless mutually agreed upon.

But what if your motives are selfish and self-serving? If your desired outcome for pleasing another person is for personal gain, seeking approval for yourself into their group or for the gaining of privileged favor… troubles may loom on the horizon, because your fraudulent intentions to impress, befriend, or influence - may not be reciprocated in kind, you may be taken for granted, or your efforts may be ignored completely. When continuous self-serving overtures produce failure and rebuke… incredible levels of stress and anxiety are sure to ensue. And stress can be a killing pre-cursor to other serious ailments - emotional and physical.

 

A habitual do-gooder, ever ready to seek favor and approval of themselves is doing so at a cost to their own self-worth. They will more acutely experience failure, depression, and stress… caused by the lack of receiving appreciation for their nagging need to trade personal self-esteem for acceptance by a group.  

Step out of yourself and observe what you are doing and see if it is having a negative effect upon your emotional or physical being. Never subvert of sabotage your own potential and health. Everyone can discover awesome ways to develop their self-worth, self-reliance, and independence in dealing with people in ways to be free and protected against the onslaught of stress and its family of related disease. 

Characterization of a Do-Gooder

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